One of those is more important
I talk on here a lot about the gap between what people say they want and what they actually buy.
If you’re in business, you better pay attention to the second one.
Years ago, I had a client start a homebuilding company focused on “active adult” buyers.
He did everything right.
Spent two years interviewing prospects. Asking what they liked. What they hated. What was missing in the market.
The answers were clear.
Open layouts.
Smaller footprints.
Different finish packages.
More practical storage.
So he built exactly what they asked for.
And waited.
Turns out what people describe in a quiet interview and what they emotionally respond to when it’s time to write a check are not the same thing.
The company failed.
I’ve seen the same thing with custom homes.
Buyers walk in with a vision. A look. A stack of inspiration photos.
The builder already knows half of it won’t function the way they imagine. Or will cost far more than they think. Or will look very different once it’s actually built.
People think they want something in the abstract.
But they don’t want it in the concrete.
One of the more successful builders I know builds 100% spec.
No presales.
No option sheets.
No custom changes.
Risky? Yes.
But it removes a massive problem.
The buyer walks into something real.
They either love it or they don’t.
And when they love it, they forget about the list of “must-haves” they swore they needed.
Now zoom out.
We say we want authenticity.
We say we value substance.
We say we want “real.”
Then we spend hours consuming curated lives, filtered success, and carefully edited highlight reels.
The market doesn’t reward what people claim to value.
It rewards what they actually respond to.
That’s true in homebuilding.
It’s true in land.
And it’s true in negotiations.
Landowners say they want the highest number.
Buyers say they want discipline.
Both say they want fairness.
Then a real contract hits the table.
The seller who swore price was everything suddenly values certainty.
The buyer who claimed to be rigid stretches when the property feels rare.
Behavior reveals priorities.
Words are cheap.
That’s why I don’t build strategy around what sounds good in theory.
I build it around what actually closes.
Closed sales matter more than listing prices.
Executed contracts matter more than opinions.
And real movement matters more than what someone says over coffee.
If you want to understand a market, watch what people do.
Not what they post.
P.S. You may not be ready to sell today, but does it hurt to know where you stand?
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