Tag: Real Estate Mindset

  • Success Shouldn’t Surprise You

    Success Shouldn’t Surprise You

    I talked awhile back about why brokers aren’t paid by the hour.

    I told a story about spotting a land sale opportunity. A buyer was quietly blocking up acreage in an area I watch. I noticed it, called a friend who owned a tract on the other side, and asked if he would mind if I ran his property up the flagpole.

    A couple calls and a few texts later, there was a closing.

    A good one.

    Of course I was happy about it. Maybe I should even celebrate those moments a little more than I do. Sometimes I think it might be healthy to stop and enjoy them.

    But there’s something about celebrating too much that bothers me.

    If I get too excited and throw out my shoulder patting my own back, what I’m really telling myself is that the success was unexpected.

    And in a narrow sense it was.

    But in a broader sense, it wasn’t unexpected at all.

    The way I operate is designed so that things occasionally “just fall into place.” I spend a lot of time watching land sales, tracking who is buying what, and paying attention to how different players are expanding their positions.

    Because of that, sometimes the right situation shows up.

    I can’t tell you exactly when it will happen, or where it will happen. But I can absolutely tell you that I expect it to happen from time to time.

    That’s the whole point of operating this way.

    So sure, maybe I’ll take my wife out to dinner when a deal like that closes and enjoy the moment. But the next day I’m back at it doing the same things that make the next one possible.

    Reminds me of something I heard about Nick Saban.

    During his run of championships with the Alabama Crimson Tide football, someone asked him how long he allowed himself to enjoy winning a national title.

    His answer was something like, “about a day.”

    Then he went back to work doing the same things he does every year.

    A lot of people hear that and think it sounds miserable. They think he should celebrate longer.

    You’ll also notice that most of those people aren’t as successful as Saban.

    Maybe they’re right and maybe they aren’t. But the reason Saban operates that way is simple: the success didn’t surprise him.

    He expected it.

    And when you expect something, there’s no reason to act like it was a miracle.

    You just go back to doing the things that made it possible.

    You might not think that’s the best way to live a happy life. I think you’d be wrong, but we can disagree about that.

    But when you’re making a decision as consequential as selling your land, there’s a more practical question.

    Who do you want working for you?

    The guy who is so surprised by success that he shuts down for a week?

    Or the guy for whom it’s just another day at the office?


    P.S. If you own land, chances are you’re not planning to sell it today. That’s perfectly fine. But having current information about where the market stands is never a bad idea.

    That’s exactly what the MBR Land Reality Check is designed for.

    It’s a straightforward Broker Opinion of Value based on current listings, real sales, development activity, and the buyers who are actually active in North Texas land right now.

    And it’s free (at least for the time being). No obligation and no pressure to list.


    P.P.S. If you don’t need the Reality Check today but enjoy this kind of thinking, you can get posts like this in your inbox whenever I publish them (usually daily).

  • You Can’t Borrow Confidence

    You Can’t Borrow Confidence

    A lot of people think confidence is something you display. Chest out, louder voice, strong handshake.

    That’s the movie version.

    The real thing is quieter.

    You don’t have to announce it because you’re not performing for anybody.

    The loudest guy in the room usually wants you to think he’s the strongest.

    If he actually was, he wouldn’t be talking about it. He’d just do what he came to do.

    Most people try to borrow confidence from somebody else. They surround themselves with hype. Friends, coaches, influencers, “mentors,” motivational quotes, group chats.

    Nothing wrong with any of that — but if you pull the crowd away and you’re suddenly unsure…

    It wasn’t confidence. It was noise.

    Confidence is built quietly, by doing things you don’t want to do until they’re not a big deal anymore.

    Showing up when it’s uncomfortable. Having the conversation you’d rather avoid.

    Saying no when yes would make someone else like you more.

    Confidence is a byproduct.

    Not a performance.

    People get this backwards in business, dating, sports, negotiations — everything. They think if they look confident first, the real confidence will eventually show up.

    But confidence doesn’t come from the pose.

    When you know what you’re capable of because you’ve watched yourself do hard things, you don’t need to posture.

    And when you know what you’re not capable of yet, you don’t need to pretend. You just keep working.

    That’s why the calm guy is usually the real threat. He’s not trying to convince you of anything.

    He’s already convinced.

    You’re probably not ready to sell your land today. But the time to start is well before you intend to do anything.

    Get the current market info, real comps. Start talking to someone to see if you can trust them and if they are the right fit for you.

    If things change and time to sell comes quicker? You’re ahead of the game. If not, what have you lost be being prepared.

    I’m not like most of the agents you probably know.

    I don’t “rah-rah” your property. I don’t hype it up, oversell it, or drag buyers around pretending like we’re about to hit the lottery.

    That’s theater.

    I look at the land. The comps. The zoning. The development patterns.

    The buyer pool.

    The real demand — not the imaginary one you hope is out there.

    Then we price it correctly, present it well, and give the right buyer the opportunity to see it.

    I don’t have to be loud about it. I don’t have to “create” something that isn’t there.

    Confidence is knowing the deal will close because the fundamentals make sense.

    No borrowed hype. No pep rally. Just the work.

    Is it crazy to want to work with an honest guy who knows the ropes?

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  • The Fastest Way to Lose Respect? Keep Saying Yes Even When You Don’t Want To

    The Fastest Way to Lose Respect? Keep Saying Yes Even When You Don’t Want To

    Stop chasing approval. Start earning respect.

    There’s nothing wrong with being agreeable, friendly, and a generally nice guy. But if you set your boundaries wrong, you’ll get taken advantage of — and you’ll end up miserable.

    We all know people who bend over backwards to make others happy. Obviously, there’s nothing wrong with helping people — to a point. But if you’re dealing with someone inclined to take advantage of others (and there are plenty of those), you’re asking for trouble.

    The people pleaser thinks that if they just give in one more time, things will finally balance out. But they never do — they just get worse. The pleaser ends up doing more of what they don’t like, resenting it more each time, and getting more miserable.

    I guess it works pretty well for the “pleasee,” at least in the short term.

    Everybody’s different, but I think most people fall into this trap at some point. Some figure it out fast. Others… not so much.

    Here’s something to try: The next three times someone asks you to go out of your way — and it isn’t justified — tell them no. And stick to it.

    Will it make the other person mad? Yeah, probably. Especially if they’re used to you being a pushover. They may have waited too long, created a mess for themselves, and now expect you to bail them out. Saying no causes them a short-term problem.

    And if they don’t? They weren’t really that great of a friend to begin with, and you’ve just improved your life by removing them. More often, though, they respect you more after the fact — and the relationship ends up on better footing. And your life’s better for it.

    If you’ve been reading here awhile, you know I talk a lot about not discounting commissions, not being on a leash for late-night calls, and setting boundaries with clients. I work hard for my clients and aim to provide the best service possible — but I don’t let people abuse my time or treat me like a 24/7 employee.

    That’s not stubbornness. That’s knowing where I stand. And if someone insists on crossing those lines, it’s usually a sign we’re not a good fit for each other anyway.

    When your business relationships are based on trust and respect, everyone has a better experience. And funny enough, the financial results can be better, too — even without discounted commissions. I can’t guarantee it, of course; you only get to run a deal once, and there’s no “control group” to compare against. But when you’ve got someone negotiating at a high level daily on your side, that small percentage in commission may get recovered — and then some.

    And aside from the numbers, there’s this: never having to wonder whether your broker is working for you or just working you makes the entire process better.

    Is it ever a bad time to start a conversation with someone who values your time, negotiates hard on your behalf, and treats you right — while expecting the same in return?

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