Tag: Contentment

  • Red Cars

    Red Cars

    Most of what happens around you today, you’ll never notice.

    There’s a part of your brain called the reticular activating system that’s involved in deciding what gets your attention. Your brain filters an enormous amount of what’s going on around you because it can’t pay attention to everything.

    But you can influence what you notice by intentionally looking for it.

    Say I call you over to the window of an office building and have you look out at the parking lot for a minute. Then I turn you around and ask how many red cars were down there. You’d have no idea. You weren’t looking.

    But send you back to the window and tell you to count red cars first, and it’s easy.

    Nothing about the parking lot changed. What you were consciously looking for did.

    Paul told the church at Philippi to think about whatever is true, whatever is honorable and right and pure and lovely, anything excellent, anything worth praising.

    It gets read as a keep-your-mind-out-of-the-gutter verse. And it is that. But it’s also an example of activation, because the more you look for good, the more of it you’re going to see.

    It was there the whole time. You just weren’t counting it.

    At the start of the day I try to remember to think of three things from yesterday I’m grateful for. Doesn’t have to be anything big. Maybe a good meal, or time with one of my kids, or just getting a chance to relax.

    I didn’t notice a difference at first. But after a while I started seeing that there’s a lot more good going on than I realized.

    A few lines later in that same letter, Paul says he’s learned the secret of being content in any situation. Fed or hungry, plenty or nothing.

    Learning to notice the good probably helps with that.

    But that’s not really the secret.

    Paul wrote that letter in chains, knowing he might not get out alive. But you can see him noticing the good. He points out that the entire palace guard has heard about Jesus because he’s locked up, and that other believers got bolder watching him.

    Then he says the real point.

    To live is Christ and to die is gain.

    He had no idea how his trial was going to go. Or if he lived past that what might happen to him later. But he knew exactly how the story ended, and that was enough to be content with either outcome.

    Noticing the good helped him. Knowing the ending saved him.

    If we believe what we say we believe, we already know the end. What we don’t know is the middle. And the middle can be tough.

    But knowing how the story ends changes how you live through the parts you don’t understand yet.

    In the meantime, keep looking for the red cars.

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  • You’d Think I’d Know Better By Now

    You’d Think I’d Know Better By Now

    You’ve probably read this in a hundred places: It’s good to learn from your own mistakes. It’s better to learn from somebody else’s, because theirs are cheaper.

    Fine advice. Works pretty good on the small stuff. Watch someone touch something hot, and it’s a pretty safe bet you won’t do it yourself.

    Unless you’re me, then you’re going to touch it immediately to see if it really was as hot as the other guy acted like it was.

    Kidding. Sort of. Either way, when it comes to important things the “other guy’s experience” thing doesn’t seem to transfer at all.

    Think about the last time you got a new vehicle. Or moved into a new place. Or had a commission come in bigger than you’d figured on.

    It feels good. For a few days it feels like more than good, like things have finally settled into their right spots, and you catch yourself thinking some version of okay, now we’re fine.

    Then it wears off. Nothing dramatic about it. It just quietly stops being new, and you’re the same man you were before it showed up, sitting in a better truck.

    I’ve run that cycle more times than I care to write down.

    I have gotten better at one part of it. Now I generally know going in that it isn’t going to work. I can see the whole thing coming, before I ever start.

    And I do it anyway.

    Because maybe this time is going to be the one where it all works.

    But if you’re going to borrow a man’s experience on this particular question, you may as well borrow from the one with the best data in history.

    Solomon had more money than anybody. Scripture says he made silver as common in Jerusalem as stones. Wisest man alive on top of it, people traveled in from other countries just to hear him talk. Built the temple. Built himself a house that took thirteen years. Planted vineyards, made gardens and pools, bought herds and servants, hired people to sing to him. Says plainly that he refused himself nothing his eyes wanted.

    Never been a better example to study, and never will be.

    His answer was vapor. Chasing after the wind.

    He wasn’t guessing and he wasn’t broke when he said it. A man who never had “eff you money” saying money won’t satisfy is easy enough to wave off. Solomon had every bit of it and filed the same report.

    And here’s the part that makes it worse. Solomon didn’t have any better luck acting on what he knew than the rest of us do.

    He walked away from God anyway. Wisest man who ever lived, God appeared to him in person twice, and he still finished up with his heart somewhere else.

    Knowing better wasn’t his problem either. Doing better was.

    That’s worth thinking about when we tell ourselves we’ll make the right decision later.

    Wednesday night the Powerball ran up over a billion dollars.

    A billion. With every bit of what I’ve just written sitting right there in my head, did I buy a ticket?

    You bet I did.

    Somebody won it. Wasn’t me. Which is probably a mercy, though I’d have liked the chance to confirm it for myself.

    It was never a shortage of evidence.

    Solomon had the evidence too.


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